Thursday, August 19, 2021

For Mom

After having been moved into a skilled nursing facility on July 6th, my Mom was a resident for one week before she fell and shattered bones in several places. She spent another week heavily drugged, to mask as much pain as possible, and then finally let go of this life, of which she had been tenacious.

           The figurine below is from Willow Tree and is called "Loving My Mother". It was gifted to me by a dear friend when she learned of Mom's passing.





















As children my siblings and I remember Mom often teasing us that a song we learned in our church's children's auxiliary was something she wanted to have sung at her funeral--by us. But when I sat down with her 2 1/2 years ago to plan her funeral program, she decided to have it sung by her granddaughters, granddaughters-in-law, and great-granddaughters instead. We changed "Mother" to "Gramma".

These are the lyrics to the song "I Often Go Walking":

I often go walking in meadows of clover,

And I gather armfuls of blossoms of blue.

I gather the blossoms the whole meadow over;

Dear mother, all flowers remind me of you.


O mother, I give you my love with each flower

To give forth sweet fragrance a whole lifetime through;

For if I love blossoms and meadows and walking,

I learn how to love them, dear mother, from you.

A few days after Mom's funeral, when I finally had a chance to breathe, I pulled out the tub of scraps from Mom's quilts and found the bag of leftovers from the blue and white "Storm at Sea" quilt she made for me decades ago. Then I pulled down the thick loose-leaf of quilt patterns and photos I saved from magazines that Mom was discarding many years ago. I remembered one I wanted to use.

I only had a photo of this one, and a sketch I had made years ago of possible block construction. An internet search for a bouquet block pattern yielded nothing that resembled this. In Brackman's Encyclopedia the Crown of Thorns block seemed to come closest--but that doesn't have patterns, so I was back where I started. I drew up my own pattern, making sure to avoid the set-in seams that were used in the quilt in the magazine photo. I could only tell that when I studied the blocks closely. It is obvious on one of the blossoms made from striped fabric.

There is significance to the fabrics in this little quilt.

Each of the blue "blossoms" is made of scraps from my Storm at Sea quilt, but the blossom to the right was also from the last maternity dress I made. When I had my last baby (over 30 years ago), Mom said she would use the cotton fabric from the dress in quilts--and she did. I used that same fabric to bind this quilt. The green is from a quilt my brother now owns, and the purple was from the last quilt Mom made, when she was 85. Blue and purple had been her favorite colors. The background fabric is little blue blossoms on a white background. I don't know if Mom ever used it in a quilt, but it was from her stash. This little quilt finished up at just over 9" square.

I hand quilted everything on this--even the stitch-in-the-ditch--in homage to Mom, because to her if it wasn't hand quilted, it wasn't a quilt. She taught me everything I know about hand quilting, especially the tiny stitches. She was always very gracious about my machine quilting. :)                                                                                          

I call this "Blossoms of Blue". Mom, this one's for you!

Janet O.


                                            The quilt on Mom's casket was one she made in 2003. It is, of course, all hand quilted.


57 comments:

  1. Janet, you have been so heavily on my mind, lately...I am so very sorry about your darling momma. What a blessing and lovely influence on your life. Great quilt, Janet...love that hand quilting, as I know your mom would have too!

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  2. Im Sorry to hear about your loss. The mini quilt is a treasure and a great memory

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  3. What a beautiful memory quilt. My heart goes out to you and your family for the loss of your mom.

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  4. oh janet...a lovely post honoring the memory of such a dear mom...

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  5. Oh Janet, I’m so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. This little quilt is wonderful and I adore all the love and memories you have sewn into it. That little song is precious. Hugs to you!

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  6. What a lovely quilted tribute you made to honour your Mom. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. What a special gift also to have a song to honour her, sung by her descendants... so very special.

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  7. Oh the pain of having to say good bye, comforted only by our Faithful God and knowing that she is free from the pain and trial of this present world. I have to remind myself of that often as it really does hurt to be without our special loved ones. Celebrating the sweet inspiration and love your mom has been to you is a gift to all of us. She made some beautiful quilts and beautiful people too :-) Her wisdom lives on in you. You are in my thoughts and prayers, Janet. You and your family honored her with your very best.

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  8. I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs

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  9. Janet emociónate y bonito recuerdo de tu mamá.
    Te envió un fuerte abrazo.

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  10. OH Janet, I am so sorry to hear of your mother's passing. I knew you had been absent from the blog world for a while and I wondered why. My Dad said dying was hard work and it sounds like your mother would agree. I'm so glad she's out of pain. I think of that every time I wish my mother was back. I say to myself, "But, if she were here, she would be hurting." And then I'm grateful she has moved on and is somewhere pain free. The little quilt, first of all, is darling and secondly is a wonderful meaningful tribute to you mother's life. I hope you're doing okay. Losing one's mother is an event we dread our whole lives. And when it comes, as we know it will, it hurts.

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  11. What a lovely tribute to your mother this lovey little quilt is. Both the fabric choices and the exquisite quilting speak volumes of your love for her and her impact on your life.

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  12. What a beautiful tribute to your dear sweet mother, both the little quilt and your words. You and she shared a special bond that transcends the divide between this life and that life to come. You can rest now knowing she is free from pain and resting secure in the perfect love of her Savior.

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  13. Janet, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. It is hard to find the right words, but I hope the caring thoughts of myself and your other readers can help ease your sorrow. That is a beautiful tribute quilt
    to honour her memory with that you will always cherish.

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  14. I am sending love and hopes for healing.

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  15. Deepest condolences Janet. What a lovely tribute to your mom.

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  16. You've been on my mind for a few weeks, Janet. I noticed that you hadn't been blogging and I wondered if it was because of your mom. I'm so very sorry to learn of her fall and the pain she suffered, and then of her passing. I remember you told me she was your best friend, which will make her going extra hard. The blessing, if there is one from our point of view, is that she's no longer in pain. And, of course, she's with your dad now, too.
    Your tribute quilt is beautiful and so perfect. I love your thoughtfulness in how you chose the pattern and fabrics. So meaningful. I'm sure your mom loves it (if she can see it).
    Praying our Lord's blessings for you and those who loved and will miss your mom.

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  17. A beautiful & especially fitting tribute to your dear Mum Janet. You have been so much in my thoughts as I wondered the outcome for you all. I hope your special memories of her bring you some comfort in the difficult times ahead Janet. Sending friendship & love across the miles. ❤❤

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  18. So sorry to hear about your mum passing...... Sending lots of love and hugs...... Special memories in you little quilt ....

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  19. What a lovely tribute to your mom. As you've described her through the years, I've pictured her as a woman I would have liked to have known. I love the picture of the flowers on her beautiful quilt on the casket. What a lovely quilt! And your tribute piece is incredibly sweet; I love that all the fabric has such special significance! Love you, friend ... praying for you and yours. :)

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  20. what a beautiful and loving thought for you to share with us,she will always be with you.....................

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  21. I, too, am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. What a beautiful song she chose to be sung and I love that her grandchildren were chosen to sing it. That must have been so moving for everyone there. I love the little quilt. Jan in MA

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  22. What a sweet and wonderful tribute to your mother--she was well loved! So sad to hear of your loss--blessing to you and your family.

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  23. I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. We have one more quilter in Heaven. I know there will be many of us there and we will sew and talk about quilts. It is hard to loss a Mom. They teach us so much about life. You and your family are in my Prayers. Nancy

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  24. I am saddened to hear about your loss. You and your mom were so close. I'm glad you have so many wonderful memories to ease the sorrow in your heart. Your sweet little quilt is a beautiful tribute to your love for each other.

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  25. Dear Janet. I just read of your mother's passing. I'm so sorry for your loss. Blessing & prayers to you & your family. May she rest in peace.

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  26. Oh, Janet! I am so sorry for your loss! What a lovely little quilt you made with so many memories wrapped up in those stitches. No doubt your mom is smiling at that little quilt and remembering the little girl she taught to quilt. Hugs to you and those that loved your mom.

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  27. So sorry to hear of your loss, hugs and prayers for the family.

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  28. Such a loving and heartfelt post, keeping a place in my heart for you.

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  29. Janet, what a moving post. What a lovely service that must have been with young ones singing that sweet sweet song. I can hear it in my head.
    And your connection with your Mom through quilts. I hope this is a healing time for you after the difficult last years. The Blossoms of Blue is so meaningful and tender.

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  30. Oh, Janet, the quilt for your Mom is just wonderful!! And the Willow figurine is perfect!! I hope you are feeling better!! You are always in my heart and in my prayers!!

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  31. What lovely lyrics and such a meaningful little quilt full of your moms memory. Love you, dear friend.

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  32. Such a lovely tribute to your mom. Thinking of you.

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  33. Janet, I'm so sorry to learn of your mom's passing. I know you will miss her terribly. So nice that you have her fabric stash and can enjoy her memory while you sew.

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  34. Oh, Janet, so sorry for the loss of your dear Mom. Love all you write in tribute to her. Hugs to you.

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  35. What a beautiful tribute to your special Mom. Such beautiful memories in this tiny quilt. What a legacy of talent she has handed down to you. My heart goes out to you and your family and those wonderful grandchildren that sang that sweet song for her.

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  36. Deepest sympathy to you and all her beloved children and grandchildren on the loss of your mom. She suffered a lot in her last few years, but I am glad she had you and your families to cherish her through her final days. The quilt is beautiful. Peace and love ❤️

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  37. I am so sorry to hear of your mother's passing. You have cared for her so tirelessly and lovingly. It is never easy to say good-bye or to let go. Although my parents had passed by the time I was 38, I have decided that having your parents longer in your life, makes it even harder to have them leave. You have had that much longer to love them. I could say lovely things such as, "She is in a better place right now" but that doesn't really fill your heart. May your faith in our Savior's great Atonement give you great peace and comfort until your heart refills with joy.

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  38. What a lovely reminder of your mom. Sympathy to you and your family.

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  39. Am so sorry for the loss of your mama. I so miss my mama. She has been gone since 2015. I pray that you find peace in your memories of her.

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  40. What a beautiful tribute to your mom Janet.
    My deepest condolences Janet, all my thoughts are with you....
    I’m sending you huge hugs....

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  41. What a lovely tribute to your mom, Janet. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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  42. Oh Janet - I am so very sorry to hear of this sadness. Please accept my condolences. She was a pretty woman, and lived a very long life. That quilt on her casket is stunning - a lovely finish to a long full life. My thoughts are with you. Please be at peace with her passing.

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  43. I am erysipelas sorry to hear about your Mum, my sympathies to you and your family. The mini you have made is beautiful.

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  44. Sorry for the spelling error, it should read very sorry

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  45. So very sorry to hear of the passing of your mom. Mom’s are so precious. I know you’ll will miss her greatly. dorthac at aol dot com

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  46. Oh Janet I am so sorry to hear this. What a sad time for your family. I Have thought of her from time to time and was wondering how she was.
    She is free from pain and has returned to our creator for rest.
    Take Care Friend. I'm sending you a big hug.

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  47. Oh Janet, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, I know it will have been a very difficult time for you and your family. The little quilt is a beautiful and heartfelt tribute. Thinking of you and sending you love and hugs from New Zealand.

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  48. Oh Janet. I know the pain of losing a parent. May your wonderful memories of her comfort you in the coming day, weeks and months. Sending lot of big hugs.

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  49. So sorry for your loss. You were lucky in htat she taught you quilting skills, good ones. What a wonderful tribute you made to her.

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  50. Oh Janet. You and your family have really been through a lot over a long period of time. My heart goes out to all of you. You were such a source of comfort and support for your mom. I love the song lyrics and the quilt you made for her. She fought so hard for so long. But she left such wonderful memories for your entire family. Huge hugs to you and your family. xxxx

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  51. Oh, Janet, I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. My heart goes out to you and your family. I know how difficult it has been and this post is a lovely tribute to her. Blossoms of Blue is the perfect little quilt made with love and lots of memories. I hope you are doing okay. I'm thinking of you :)

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  52. So sorry about your mom's passing. My prayers are with you.

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  53. Sending prayers and thoughts to you from Down Under, as you grieve the loss of your mother. A beautiful tribute in the mini quilt and such a special song sung by family at the funeral.

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  54. Janet O, I missed reading your Blog and came to find this today. I know it's late but I have to send my Sincerest Condolences. You will always remember the years you have cared for her. She was loved! I'm so grateful for Eternal Families. Love and Blessings to your family.

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  55. I'm so sorry to read about your mom's passing. Hugs to you. Your mini quilt is a beautiful tribute to her.

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  56. condolences on your mother’s passing. What a lovely tribute.

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  57. My condolences on your loss. How fortunate your family can hug your Mom anew every time they hug one of her beautiful quilts.

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